Recently while we were having sex, my girlfriend asked me to fist her. We've used strap-ons, dildos, and of course, our hands — but never fisted, specifically. She is one of my first girlfriends, and I've never actually experienced this before I haven't done it, and I haven't had it done to me. I know that we're not talking about a literal fist-in-vagina situation here, but still, I'm nervous because I don't know what to do.
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A lot of people hear the word 'fisting' and are immediately horrified. And we kind of can't blame them considering the majority of pornography depicting fisting is a teensy bit intimidating. If fisting either giving or receiving is something you're curious about though, please know it doesn't have to be as aggressive as you might see in porn - although if that's how you like it, it totally can be. Everyone, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity, can get pleasure from receiving and giving - and both the vagina and anus can be fisted if done safely. So to do it safely, you need to take it very slowly and, most importantly, use lots of lube.
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But what do you do instead? Her advice? So the idea of a woman penetrating another woman with her hand is often lost on mainstream media all together. She also recommends as much communication as possible so you can know when your receiving partner is ready for more and when they want you to stop moving. Even if you wash your hands thoroughly, you want to make sure there are no abrasions from the nails or hangnails, explains Queen.
But the mechanics and implied violence turns people off, and so fisting has a stigma. But for many, the stigma is unwarranted and fisting is a joy. So, for the sake fostering honest and stigma-free conversations around sex in all its variously human forms, we spoke to four people who enjoy it. Both giving, as well as receiving. And some names have been changed because they don't want their friends and family knowing.